This past summer, in my guest post on the Law of Attraction and how it applies to nursing and patient safety, Beth and I received a LOT of feedback. We thought to ourselves, “Boy, did this post strike a nerve!” And so, this follow up, expanding more on the topic at hand.
Last month I described how crucial our feelings were in transforming our environments. If we want safe environments, respectful communication, and collaborative teamwork what does that feel like? I want to delve deeper into two concepts here today: moving towards what you want and affirming it into existence.
Let me share a quick story first, to highlight the initial concept: moving towards what you want.
I had a friend who was an ER nurse. At first, she loved it: the adrenaline, the busyness, the critical thinking. But overtime she found herself exhausted and ready to move on. She knew she didn’t want to work in the ER anymore and started applying for several jobs.
Well, as time went on she wasn’t getting anywhere. Some applications didn’t result in interviews; others cancelled or didn’t call back. The interviews she did go on didn’t pan out in any real leads. She began to wonder, “What’s going on? What’s wrong with me?”
Here’s the challenge she was facing, the one I see many nurses and even our profession as a whole, struggling against: she wasn’t moving towards what she wanted. She was running away from what she didn’t want.
So she didn’t want to be an ER nurse, but instead of getting clear on what she did want… she just kept focusing on what she didn’t want. I see this from our profession too:
- We don’t want patients to get hurt;
- We don’t want nurse-on-nurse bullying;
- We don’t want heavy ratios, short staffing, or disrespect.
But guess what? If that’s what we focus on; that’s what we get more of!
Every single thing in this world is made of energy: your body, the seat you are sitting on, the car you drive, the trees outside, the thoughts you think, and the emotions you feel. Everything.
Putting thoughts out there on things you don’t want doesn’t help anything at all; it only brings more of what you don’t want into existence. Even worse, when a collective group (profession of nursing) thinks as one… it strengthens the power of those thoughts, strengthening the concept that we don’t want to have happen.
So if you’re understanding what I’m saying to you, you might be thinking: “Well, what can I do about this?!?” Here’s what you can do: affirm what you want into existence.
For awhile I was under the impression that affirmations don’t work. In fact, I was teaching, writing, and speaking to this belief. Well, I’m publically admitting that I was wrong, very wrong.
Affirmations DO work. You are using them all day long. But how are you using them? Are you unconsciously using them to create things that you don’t want? Are you focusing on what you don’t want and thus affirming more of that into your world?
Let me share with you a wonderful way to reframe affirmations so that you can really use them in a powerful, meaningful way to get what you want. Instead of creating a statement that causes doubt or disbelief, offer it up in a way that sounds more welcoming.
- I choose to attract a safe, supportive, and healthy work environment for myself and patients.
- I choose to feel capable of communicating effectively and know others see me that way too.
- I choose to take pride in myself and my profession’s image.
When you choose to affirm what you want out of life, it makes it much more realistic and achievable. You set yourself, your work, and our nursing profession up for success.
Let’s create a nursing collective that is healthy, safe, and energized. Let’s embrace a community of upbeat, like-minded professionals who are moving towards the positive change that they want to see. –Elizabeth Scala
Have a healthy day!